Mother’s Day is just another day with the people who make us mothers. The reality is, it’s going to be messy.
This morning, like every morning, I came downstairs, with three frantic-for-breakfast kids in my wake. The view upon opening the fridge stopped me in my tracks.
There, on the middle shelf was a beautiful sight – a growler of dark roasted coffee, cold pressed for 24 hours. A full jug of coffee goodness. Even better, on it, a handwritten note from my husband proclaiming, ‘Happy Mother’s Day’.
Yes, my friends, this man is a keeper. Today, as you know as you read this, is Friday. It is not Mother’s Day.
Delighted and excited to try some, I first did what mothers do; I made the kids breakfast and made sure they had water and anything they might need from me before trying to pour myself a cup.
This coffee is every bit as wonderful as you might think it is. Dark. Strong. And, unlike my normal morning coffee with the kids, I don’t have to worry about it getting cold. It is intentionally, delightfully cold. Delicious.
That man is my hero.
Mother’s Day Expectations
Last night, before bed, I read a ScaryMommy blog post, titled “What Moms REALLY Mean When They Say “I Don’t Want Anything for Mother’s Day” that made me crack up.
Yes, I do that a lot as a heavy mom-blog consumer. Some of you are incredible blogging comedians. Thank you.
This morning, watching our kids and drinking fantastic coffee, I was struck by what I really want for Mother’s Day and how appropriate it is to wake up to a Mother’s Day gift during a standard week day.
What I Really Want
What I really want is not what I originally thought. Last night, I agreed with ScaryMommy and thought I wanted an uninterrupted day.
But I don’t. An uninterrupted Mother’s Day will mean missing what makes me love being a mom. Mother’s Day isn’t about being served, thanked, showered with gifts, or praised. Mother’s Day is about being a mom, and being a mom means a life of interruption, both good and bad.Mother's Day isn't about being served, thanked, showered with gifts, or praised. Mother's Day is about being a mom, and being a mom means a life of interruption, both good and bad. #mothersday #momlife #motherhood Click To Tweet
Motherhood is a Good Trade
Although I sometimes complain about the lack of sleep, cranky or tired kids, or how I want to go to the bathroom in peace, even those moments bring a fullness and joy to life I can’t do without. You see, un-interrupted sleep means missing a chance to snuggle and comfort a child who is too busy to snuggle during the day. An extra long shower means I might miss something they may never do again.
Motherhood is a good trade.
It is true that being a mom means I don’t have as much time for myself as I used to, but who needs all that self-reflection and pampering anyway? All I did before kids was waste a lot of time and hot water.
I may have quick showers, less sleep and have to answer the question ‘why?’ in one morning more than any person should in a lifetime, but I also have priceless, funny, sweet, and sometimes messy (or stressful) moments with these incredible little people.
I am grateful to have the opportunity to stay home with our kids. They change me for the better, every single day, whether I like it or not.
Mother’s Day has Value
Truly, Mother’s Day is better spent on a day like today, without a big family gathering or special meal. I don’t really like to be the center of attention anyway; it makes me feel awkward and weird. On the actual day, I am often distracted by events and our kids are usually off playing with cousins so I don’t see much of them until they are over-tired, crying and ready for bed.
I remember last year sarcastically thinking happy mother’s day to me as they screamed their way through bedtime baths, books and prayers. Who could blame them? We had so much fun celebrating and playing, they were just plumb worn out!
Don’t get me wrong, the celebrations of moms are wonderful and important. All mothers, and those who love our children but may not be biological mothers are worth honoring. Absolutely spend time pampering the moms in your life this Mother’s Day.All mothers, and those who love our children but may not be biological mothers are worthy honoring. Absolutely spend time pampering the moms in your life this Mother's Day. #mothersday #honoryourmother #allmomsmatter Click To Tweet
I Want a Regular Day
But today, a regular Friday, is what being a mom is all about. Sure, we have bruises, time-outs, messes, and tears, but we also have life lessons learned, sweet sibling snuggles, playtime, curiosity, and all-out-hysterical-belly laughing.
What I really want for Mother’s Day, is a regular day with our kids;a day that wouldn’t be complete without interruption, grass stains, time-outs and dirty diapers (OK, I admit I could do without the diapers). While uninterrupted moments might be nice, I love them so much, I don’t want to spend the day with only the perfectly behaved portion of their day – I want all of it. Messy or not.
At a minimum, I thought this known sleep worshipper would at least want to sleep in. But really, I won’t. I will hear the rabble-rousing downstairs and know that I was missing moments with my family. I want to be there when my husband and kids are wrestling and they are giggling and tackling each other. I don’t want to miss it. Instead, I’ll use the day to reflect and be grateful for all parts of being a mom.
I will not trade it for even one day.
Today, a coffee growler made me feel loved, celebrated, grateful and well-caffeinated; a perfect combination on a not-so-perfect day. The fact that it was given on a day that isn’t Mother’s Day makes it twice as appropriate and special. Thank you, Seth (and kids), you know me so well.
Remember, it doesn’t take much to make a mom’s day special. Let the moms spend the day with the sweet kids who make them moms in the first place. The kids are the best gift a mom ever asked for anyway.
Even if they come with interruption and boogers.
Happy Mother’s Day!
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